When I was 5 a boy named Steven stole my Kudos bar every day. We were friends. We played dinosaurs together in class. But every lunch he’d hover over me and say “Give me your Kudos bar,” and I would. I told my mom about it. She told me to stand up to him. To …
We used to have these “All Hands” meetings at work. During the meeting, the senior partners would take turns presenting about how business was going. What new projects they were selling, new work in the pipeline… Not necessarily a showcase of oral presentation skills or public speaking prowess. But I noticed something interesting in those meetings. …
The following is an excerpt from Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say. So now you’re talking, conversation is flowing nicely, and you feel like you’re really starting to form a connection with this person…But what happens when after 10 minutes, that dreaded …
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There is a popular, insane conception that the crux of success is a good idea. People think great art, inventions, and businesses are manifestations of a blueprint that existed in someone’s head. That all they need is a sound plan and then they can flow from execution to their goals in a pretty little line. …
My mental faculties used to abandon me when I needed them most. In high school, I’d be comfortable and funny hanging out with my friends, but as soon as a pretty girl entered the room, I’d go into Defcon 5. My ribs and chest would tighten. My mouth would lock shut. My arms would secrete …
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Note: This is part of a larger series on how to be more confident. Part 1 is here. Today, I want to talk about the three distinct types of confidence and how to build confidence in each area. Whether that’s at work, with your friends, in romantic life, amongst superiors, it doesn’t matter. If you want …
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A lot of charismatic tips can seem trite and overdone. Like: touch frequently, lower your vocal tonality, maintain rock solid eye contact, cut filler words, exude ebullient energy. All of those things are true. You’ve just heard them before. Here are 5 things I’ve learned that have contradicted conventional wisdom and even the advice of …
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Confidence matters. More than you can even imagine. Hewlett Packard discovered that years ago. They were researching why there was such a discrepancy between men and women in positions of management. Sexism was still an issue. But they found something else. Men would apply for promotions when they met only 60% of the criteria. Women …
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